"I Am In LOVE...!!!"

I AM IN LOVE……!!!

Have you ever faced this question in your life:-“Am I in Love?”
And have you ever got the answer muttering in your heart:-“Yes I Am In Love.”
Love does happens. It is the feeling, an emotion created beyond your hold.
In Love we find assertiveness, i.e., the ability to express your emotions and needs without violating other rights and in the same time without being aggressive.
If define in romantic way:- “It is the Heaven and Hell of Joy and Sorrow for Two Fevering Soul, always waiting with hope-tears or smiles?”

But how you can say that you are in love or not? How you can determine that you are in true love or not? How you can find the signals of Love? And how can you get the answer to mutter in your heart-“I Am In Love….!!!”

Love can be divided into three phase:-
1) Starting Phase- Means Attraction Phase
2) Middle Phase:- Means Understanding Phase
3) End Phase:- Means Deciding Phase
It is the nature or attitude of a person which describes his/her liking. If something matches to your nature, either your taste, your emotional passiveness, your own perception, your thoughts, or anything, you start inclining towards it. It’s your attitude which gives you power for acceptance. In Love nature of a person plays a great role in its each and every phase.

1) STARTING PHASE:-

An Attraction Phase। I।e। to say you get attracted towards someone or vice versa. It’s the beginning of Love. It is also a recognition phase. I.e. you get recognized by someone or you recognize someone interested in you. Starting phase could be sub divided into three phase, to understand it more clearly. They are:-

Love At first Sight:- The most wonder of your life. The attraction starts for someone whom you have first seen (or just seen) or met in your life.
You see someone and your heart gets blossoms with the fragrance of love. Your heart and mind starts sounding like the rain drops. At that time you feel discovering the new horizon, the new dawn of happiness.
Here your nature plays the role. Your attitude to perceive anything. Love at first sight means you get attracted to someone all of the sudden which may be due to his/her:-
1) Beautiful face
2) Beautiful eyes
3) Physical appearance- shape of body, dressing sense, etc
4) Hair style
5) Overall presence or any other aspects of his/her
Suppose a boy passes through a bus stop. All of the sudden he sees a girl waiting for the bus all alone in herself. He stops. He tries to hide himself, but his eye keeps her watching.
Her long hair scatters on her face and she is always trying to unveil herself from that scattered hair. And the boy is still watching ……………
The bus stops. She steps forward to catch the bus. The heart beats of boy increases. “This could be the last view of her” , he thinks.
She steps ahead and ahead, and all of the sudden she looks back. The moment her eye line matches with boy, everything stops for him.
The boy fond again on the same bus stand next day………………….

Love by attachment :-

It also means love by togetherness। Everyone requires someone in their life who can understand his/her feelings. If you find someone who cares for you, you get attached. The attachments could be due to anything- May be some situational requirements, like, due to some work, due to study, due to mutual sharing of something etc. The main theme is that you are in regular touch with him/her for any reason (but not due to love).
You get attach to them who matches your nature or attitude. And this attachment really felt in the absence of any of the two. This is the point where you discover first that this attachment was not really meant for any cause but more than this. This is how you discover your first love to him/her, being together or say living together.
Attachment simply means emotional bonding between two souls.

Negative Attraction:- You hate someone because you do not like his/her attitude. Your views or ideas always clashes with him/her. The behavior always irritates you. But due to some circumstances you tend to live with him/her. You tend to come across to him/her for some reason or not.
But even, though you explore one day that you are in love with him/her. It happens because you always keep that person in your mind to show your supremacy and at that time when you find any positive assertiveness, you’re negative thoughts changes into positive and that time you discover love for him/her.
In the negative attraction you find your love from all the unwilling behavior in your partner in beforehand. So, when you discover your love in him/her their remains the less chances of clashes in future because you already have known the weak points in your partner.
These were the starting phase of love। Now what are the Love Signals? How you can differentiate others from someone who is taking interest in you or either you are talking interest in someone?

The solution is Body Language. By this you can get the answers of these questions.
A research was done at the University of Pennsylvania to determine to what extent does a person’s body language affects the impression that people from of him/her. The shocking result was that people build their impression about you based on:

55% gestures, postures and movements.
38% on the tone of your voice (tempo and frequency).
Only 7% on what you say.

That is a total of 93 percent for body language (which comprises bodily gestures and tone voice) and only 7 percent for spoken words. This means that 93 percent of what you say is not uttered in words but shown in your body language and gestures.
This is because whenever there is change in emotions, there is a corresponding change in gestures and the tone of voice.

LOVE SIGNALS

Smile:- If you are speaking or talking to something in the presence of that person who takes interest in you, you will find long lasting smile on his/her face even there is no good reason to smile. Remember, only fake smile fade away quickly. True smile stays tend to linger a little longer. So, smile will not fade away quickly even there is no good reason to smile in the case of person taking interest in you.

Cancellation of plans:- There is no important work in this world beside meeting the someone you are interest in. This symptom could easily be seen in the case of person attracted to you.

Calling for no reason:- I think, this need not to explain. You can easily understand what the sign means.

Private distance:- There is a circle which you made around you to maintain the distance with others. But you keep smaller distance if interested in someone or vice versa. One who develops feeling for you always tries to break that circle you have made around you and always tries to remain closer always to you.

Caring:- Caring your friends and becoming more nice to them is strong point in this context.
This is what someone tries to show you how caring he/she is by caring your near ones.
Positive Evaluation:- In body language rubbing your brows with your fingers mean that you positively evaluated something. The one interested in you always tries to lure your attraction. Like he/she adjusts his/her eye glasses ten times, only one time may worth to do so.

Orientation:-

Orienting himself/herself in your direction even if they were standing parallel to yours and with their toes pointing towards you।

If there is some distance between you and him/her, you will see- even though he or she tends to talking with the group, his or her body sign is towards you.

Nice or cold:- Being nice one day and ignoring one day is the most common symptom you will find in your interested one. He/she likes to remain with you but when he/she finds that there happens more enough to show what is in the heart, the next starts ignoring and again nice another day.

Everywhere:- Meeting simply which seem happens to be coincidence is another sign you can find with someone who has something for you in his/her heart.

Where are You?:- One who loves you will try to keep you within their range or sight. In this condition the question is always being heard- where are you?

These are the sign you could have already being experienced. If not, then from now you can start observing.

2) MIDDLE PHASE:-

The time when you already have discovered that you are in love. The time you all ready know your dream partner. This is the time you start exploring each other. You start experiencing the inner sense. Now the phrases like “ I Love You” or “I Can’t Live Without You” are being exchanged. The whole world of two fevering soul, now only revolves around each other. This is the time you feel secure because you find one to stand with you, if needed. This is the time you start giving words to your feelings. This is the time promises are being made. This is the time your whole world becomes- The Memorable.
Here you will find no logic behind any of your action. You will only feel to remain always with him or her. This is what you can say is the understanding phase because you try to find out likes and dislikes of each other.
This is the time you enjoy the true sensation of LOVE.

3) END PHASE:-

This is the deciding phase, the phase which puts questions on your love.
What will be the end of your story? Are you going to live together forever? Are you going to compromise with the situations? Will you come out of every obstacle and will win this battle of love? Will there be smile or tears forever?
These are the questions which remain always in the front of the love birds. These are the questions which are being faced at this point. Both the hearts now seems to be busy with finding the answers of these questions.
Now their faces look faded most of the time. This is the where both the love birds impetus themselves to keep the promises they had made at the beginning.
How and what the solution will be totally depended on the both hearts.

SIDE EFFECT

The only side effect which I see is Addiction in Love.
We all know that getting addicted to any thing is wrong, the too we get stuck with one or two.
Addiction in love could be seen in two conditions.
When you are living with your partner you get addicted with his/her presence.
Second, even though you are not with your partner you remain addicted with him/her.
In the first condition we experience emotional bonding but in second case we experience sentimental bonding.
But why do we get addicted to the relation?
Getting addicted to the chemical Phenyl ethylamine (PEA) which is the chemical generated when experiencing love and it’s the chemical responsible for the feelings of excitement you feel when you are in relation. Being down or having problems makes the PEA tastes so sweet and so you can easily get addicted to it.

Getting addicted to the nurturing you are receiving from your partner (finding someone who cares about you, asks about you..etc.)

Getting addicted to exchanging phrases like “I Love You” or “I can’t Live Without You”.

One who compromises with the situation or get diverted to the another part of live , may be getting another partner comes easily out of the addiction.
But some finds no easy to overcome from his/her experience. When they get separated for any reason, comes in trauma. Now, they find no easy to overcome from those memorable parts of live. They feel experiencing the same love, even though there is no one to care about. This addiction is subject to a mental illness.


BEWARE

While picking a partner you must consider yourself that you are wise enough to chose a right one. But then too keep some points in mind:
Beware of the person you fall in love with in Troubled Time.
If someone helps you during your most painful time and you get emotional for this act of his/her. Restrict yourself to increase the length of your emotion and to get fall in love.
Just be only thankful for his/her great help. Because a relation developed in trouble lasts even in trouble.

Do not pick the partner who cannot sustain the personal changes of yours. Select the one who even loves your changes. Because changing is the nature of human being and one who always try to put barriers to your freedom can only last the relation on clashes.

Don’t fall when you only just need. Select the one when you are in great time.
The relation made during the time of your most joyful moments of live always end with smiles.

Understand the difference between Love and Relationship dependency. This is the only way you can avoid falling in trap of loving someone just because you need him/her.


Love is a cute and sweet experience of life which demands no logic for its occurrence. We love someone for our cause only. We feel ourselves in excitement, energetic and pure when we love someone. So, you love for your own cause and not for the other.
Love does not demand sacrifice(s); it demands only Love for love.
Written by- dimagless

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